Top Mom Bloggers Share Their Best Tip For Parenting
I asked the top mom bloggers to share their best tip that they wish they knew when they first started parenting. Here are their responses:
My best tip for parenting – if they are both socks, then they make a pair. After three kids I’ve learned not to sweat the small stuff. My house will never be spotless, my dinners will never be magazine worthy, but my kids are happy.
-Erin blogs at No Bohns About it.
Aim high, not to be the perfect parent, but the best parent you can be.
Throughout my life, I have always strived for perfection and excellence, even if that meant stretching myself thin and ragged. Perfection, though, means nothing in the eyes of your child. Your children will not remember that you had the cleanest and most perfect house, but they will remember those times when you danced till you dropped with them to their favorite song or movie. Enjoy every moment with your child and strive to be the best parent you can be.
-Natasha blogs at Epic Mommy Adventures.
If you’re buying a double stroller, I recommend a model with front and rear seats rather than side by side seats. It’s narrower and easier to maneuver down sidewalks and store aisles.
-Susan blogs at Susan Heim on Parenting.
Kids do not come with manuals and every child is different. Trust your intuition when it comes to your kids, books do not have all of the answers.
-Katie blogs at Mommy Katie.
My best parenting tip is to not rush the various ages. It might be hard when they first come home from the hospital or are cranky toddlers, but enjoy it because it goes by so quickly. Enjoy each and every moment.
-Melissa blogs at The Mommyhood Chronicles.
The one thing I wished I knew when I began my parenting journey was to always expect the unexpected. Always to be on your toes, because you never know from minute to minute what your little one is doing. They are constantly changing beings and continue to evolve every single day, so nothing is ordinary. But everything is extraordinary in life, being a parent.
-Jennifer blogs at Corter Moon.
Choose what’s important and build your life around that. It’s simple really, what’s the most important thing to YOU for your family? It doesn’t matter what the baby books say, what the Jones did, or what worked for your mother in law 30 years ago. What matters is what works for YOUR family. For me what’s important is our kids. So I’ve built a life where I can work around their schedule. I work during NBA season, and am home with my girls in the summer. This type of life doesn’t work for everyone, but if you stay true to you and are present for your kids, you will succeed at parenting.
-Kristen blogs at Mommy in Sports.
My best parenting tip that I wish I knew…more the advice I would have listened to: it’s hard. Caring for a child is hard especially when it’s own and full time. There is so much more to Parenting than changing diapers, feeding, and nap schedules. You have to teach them to take care of themselves and become responsible, considerate adults. Is it worth it? Every minute of it.
-Diana blogs at Nanny to Mommy.
The best parenting tips that I wish I knew was not to worry about what other moms are doing and just do what works for you. Always follow your heart and your intuition. You know your kids better than anyone else, you know how to parent and raise them.
Also, there’s no such thing as being the perfect mother, so don’t stress trying to be one. Each day comes with its blessings and trials. Take it one day at a time and take a break if you have to! Being a mother is such a blessing and rest assured that you will find your own parenting style. Enjoy your kids to the fullest because they honestly grow so fast 🙂
-Ros blogs at Stress Free Mommies.
The piece of advice I wish I received before parenthood is to embrace the unexpected and live in the imperfect moments. When I first found out I was pregnant with a baby girl, I was consumed by the cute pictures of friends’ little ones in their adorable newborn photo shoots and frilly pink outfits. I had visions of my little one and I taking day trips into the city with ease and picnics in the park. Then I realized I was trying to create perfect scenarios and not just “enjoying being”. While I have some amazing photos and awesome memories that look like they are out of a Pottery Barn Kids catalogue, I find the moments I cherished the most were the unexpected, not so glamorous moments. The projects that turned out to be anything but Pinterest worthy. The naughty looks on my daughter’s face in front of our refrigerator covered with crayon streaks. The peaceful and exhausted look on her face after a crying fit. These are the moments that make parenthood, not the perfect images we are enamored by when we are expecting. There is nothing easy about parenthood. Why make it harder by trying to be perfect.
-Kristen blogs at Mommy’s New Groove.
My best tip for any new parent would be…lower your expectations. You are not going to be able to do everything, the less you try the happier you will be. I’m not joking, when I first became a mum I wanted everything to be perfect, a set routine, no dummy and solely breastfed. This all quickly flew out the window! My son would not stick to any kind of routine whatsoever, and he would not sleep unless he was sucking on something, so a dummy was essential. I became overly exhausted and had to breast-pump so that I could have a break. Lowering my expectations was necessary if I wanted to survive my first year as a mum. Once I did this I was ten thousand times happier, which in turn made me a better mother. Sometimes I revert back to being a perfectionist, but then I realise it’s so much more fun when I don’t take life so seriously!
-Meagan blogs at the The Mum Project.
My best tip for parenting that I wish I knew when I started is simply to go with the flow. Meaning, it’s fine to make plans and rules to follow as a parent, but know that each and every child is different so what works for one may not work for the other. Whether it’s sleep-training, picky eating or learning how to read, every child’s needs and journey is different; so as a parent you have to willing to learn as you go and adapt to what works for your family!
-Ana blogs at Mommy’s Bundle.
It will be way harder than you think and way easier at the same time. And that is the biggest truth of parenting: the contradicting nature of the job, the highs and lows. How things often won’t make sense, how you will always struggle to be the best parent you can and yet do a great job. How you will most likely absolutely give up your life as an individual for at least the first few years and often longer. Completely and irrevocably until your child doesn’t need you as much. But in the end, when you look at this life you’ve created, you’ll realize that all of it worth experiencing, at least once in your life.
-Elena blogs at The Art of Making a Baby.
Trust your gut. As a new mother, I was so worried about making a wrong decision that making any decision required the strategic planning of a commander general. Don’t get me wrong, much of the newfound knowledge was helpful, but too much of it –way too much– just inspired feelings of guilt and inadequacy. So I say: You’ve got enough on your plate as a new parent. Don’t add to it. Make decisions that feel right for your family. Don’t be afraid to explore ideas, inspiration, and solutions…. just be sure to get off Google Search when you find yourself getting off track. 😉
-Ashley blogs at Lies About Parenting.
The best parenting tip I wish I had known before becoming a mother is sometimes you will be your own worst critic. There is “no such thing as the perfect mommy.” That mythical creature in the realm of motherhood does not exist. That being said, do your best to wake up every morning having a pure heart and hopefully, a clear mind. Sometimes surviving your parenting journey means taking things one day at a time. Be kind to yourself and enjoy your children. They don’t expect you to be superwoman; all they need is your loving presence every single day.
-Holly blogs at Blind Motherhood.
Everyone starts off their parenting journey mostly scared of what’s to come, excited over the new experiences or a little bit of both. I wish I had known to say YES to people who want to help or ask for help when you need a little break. I internalized a lot of my frustrations and it was a very lonely experience. A rested mom is a way better mom than a tired one.
-Ellen blogs at Young Love Mommy.
I think the best advice for newbie parents is to remember that you cannot protect your child from everything. Trying to keep every single germ away from them doesn’t do them any good. Give them the opportunity to build up a strong immune system and relax!
-Jolleen blogs at Just One Mommy’s Opinion.
My best tip came from my grandmother. I wish she actually mentioned it before I started struggling. But well, it’s still better than nothing.
She said the ultimate thing: if your baby is sleeping – don’t wake him up! Even if he’s all covered with poop or his diaper is soaking! If he is comfortable enough to sleep, let him sleep.
Same thing with feedings. She said to never ever wake the baby up to feed him. And it actually makes a lot of sence. Of course this is only applicable to healthy babies. And if your pediatrician advices you otherwise, you should totally follow Doctor’s advice.
– Mad Mama NYC.
The first two weeks are so precious so use them wisely – no friends or family have visitation rights! Be choosy; say no to some visitors, put some people off until after those first two weeks when you’ll be grateful for the company. You need to get to know your new baby as much as they do, and you can’t do that if you’re making endless cups of tea and regurgitating your birth story for the fifteenth time.
-Sarah blogs at Mum Muddling Through.
The best tip I could give would be to embrace your role as a new parent. There are always a million things we want to do in a day, but if you stop to evaluate them, most of them aren’t really that important. The world won’t crash down on you if your dishes are in the sink overnight. Enjoy your children. If your baby wants to be snuggled, sit down on the couch and turn on a TV show. If your child wants to play hide-and-seek, set down the laundry and go play. These moments are way to fleeting and precious to be put off or on hold. Before you know it, you will be wishing you could get an hour hug fest, or a chance to play tag with your child. Don’t wait till tomorrow… play today!
-Kim blogs at Love, Mrs. Mommy.
How I wish that my very first bonding experience where I connected with my tiny infant for the first time was carried through into toddlerhood and beyond.
As a new parent, I failed to realise that an ongoing bond contributes to a child’s emotional- and physical growth. Too soon, my tiny cherub was sitting, walking and growing more independent, and I was spending more and more time working to make ends meet.
Its about Time Spent Together
If only I’d taken just a bit more time out to buying less toys and simply being with my child in the park, eating an ice cream at the dam or strolling around the zoo.
Children benefit with more time alone with parents. My best tip for new parents is simply this – spend time together as a family as it builds strong ties and creates happy memories. It creates an environment that builds self-esteem and strong characters in children.
It’s our Time that Truly Counts
Children don’t want more toys and gadgets – they want our time. Once your child is an aloof, indifferent teenager, its too late for regrets. If you care for your child deeply, make time for them, as your ongoing work schedule may well be sending a message that won’t build their self-esteem.
As a parent, you want to always be the first supportive person in their life, and in doing so, provide them with a lasting foundation on which to build their life.